The most important part of any healing journey is nailing down your "why".
What does this mean?
Wanting to lose 10lbs because you're going to look better in your jeans is not a lasting "why".
Wanting to lose 10lbs because you know you'll have more energy is a lasting "why".
Why is this? What's the difference between these two "why's"?
The first "why" is aesthetic and can at times be motivated by society. Often, this desire to be a certain size infers that you are somehow less than if you don't fit into this mold. Is wanting to look better in your jeans a bad thing? Absolutely not! Go to it! But soften that goal with self-love, grace and a deep understanding that your desire to look better in your jeans comes from a place of healing and not of shame.
The second "why" is about your ability to show up in the world. You know that if you had more energy, you could be more present with your spouse, and have more patience with your children. You know that if you had more energy you could workout a few days a week which is a major stress-reliever for you. This "why" is truly motivated by self-love.
Self-love is hard to come by. And, it always wins.
What is your "why"?
Write down what society tells you, you should be. Write down those nuanced and insidious voices that make you feel badly about yourself, and frankly, make you want to give up. Get that shit down on paper so that you can see it for what it is.
Write down all of the reasons why you want a better life for yourself, and how your self-care is a direct link to getting you what you really want.
Write down why self-love can be hard to come by sometimes, and how negative self-talk is impeding your progress.
Finally, sum all of this up into a few concise sentences. Share it with the people who will support you. Put this up in a conspicuous place so that you don't forget your process, your why and your path forward.
PHYSICAL RESPONSES TO STRESS
Most of us know what stress feels like: overwhelm, frustration...and maybe even a quick temper.
But what does stress physically feel like? How does stress manifest in our bodies?
There are essentially two different mechanisms of the nervous system: parasympathetic and sympathetic.
The parasympathetic nervous system is also known as the "rest and digest" state, which means that if you're chronically stressed your digestive system is going to struggle.
When digestion struggles, there can be malabsorption issues which lead to fatigue, blood sugar handling issues, muscle weakness, lack of sleep and you guessed it - more stress.
STRESS AND THE ADRENALS
“The particular kind of rest you need when you have adrenal fatigue comes not so much from lying down, but from standing up for yourself, and from removing or minimizing the harmful stresses in your life.”
― James L. Wilson, Adrenal Fatigue: The 21st Century Stress Syndrome
A big part of healing has to do with drawing lines in the sand, establishing strong boundaries, saying "no" more often and putting yourself first.
Stress comes in a lot of different forms, and each one of these scenarios is intimately managed by the adrenals:
Here are my top 5 ways to manage stress and heal my adrenals:
Most importantly, don't beat yourself up when you find that you discover you've fallen off of the "self-care" wagon. Take a deep breath and jump in. You'll be glad you did.